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How to Become More Included at the Office |Dodging Landmines

If you feel like you're being excluded, trust your gut. You probably are. Starla Sireno, executive coach at Fearlessness Inc., suggests trying to pinpoint a specific time when this feeling began. To get back on track, she says, it's important to consider the "intangibles of success" and to find a trusted mentor.

Speaker: Starla Sireno, Trainer and Executive Coach, Fearlessness Inc.

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How to Become More Included at the Office |Dodging Landmines

If you feel like you're being excluded, trust your gut. You probably are. Starla Sireno, executive coach at Fearlessness Inc., suggests trying to pinpoint a specific time when this feeling began. To get back on track, she says, it's important to consider the "intangibles of success" and to find a trusted mentor.

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>> Let's say I'm not being included in what's going on in my company and I'm really starting to feel like an outsider maybe misunderstood or even ignored, how can I change that?

>> Well first of all if you're feeling like there's something wrong trust yourself; trust your gut there may really be something going on. What you want to do is step back, look big picture and see if you can actually pinpoint an event when you started feeling this way, was it a confrontation, what happened? And from there you can figure out are you making a mountain out of a mole hill or is there something real going on here?

>> Okay say I've done that and I really am not fitting in and being excluded from things what do I do?

>> Well unfortunately it's not enough just to keep your head down and do your job there's something called the intangibles of success and what that means is it's everything from how you dress to how you carry yourself to how you speak to how engaged you are. All of those things go into your business image and how others perceive you. And if there's something about your image that isn't jiving with the corporate culture then maybe people are looking at you as an outsider.

>> So I'm in this company and I've been there for a while, I'm feeling excluded have I already blown it? Is there any way to get myself back on track?

>> Well the good news is it's not too late. What you need to do is you need to talk to a manager or talk to a trusted mentor someone within the organization that knows you and knows the organization and ask them honestly what is going on here I feel like there's a riff between me and the company? And it's gonna be a difficult conversation so you need to come into it with curiosity and openness not go into it defensively or argumentatively.

>> In summary?

>> In summary step back, do a realty check, try to pinpoint the one event when maybe this started and talk to someone trusted within the organization who can give you some tips so that you don't have to feel like an outsider.

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